Your Sorted guide, Karen Paritee

For 45 years (not a typo), I banged my head against the same question: “Why can’t I do better when I know better?” And I did know better. So I tried everything. Books. Programs. Willpower. I self-loved. I progress-tracked. I affirmed. I promised promised promised.

And for what? More bargaining. More bracing. More begging: Please let this be the last time.

What Changed

I finally realized: I wasn’t sabotaging. I was trying to stay whole. I was struggling because getting what I wanted was going to cost me what I also wanted. (Who’s raising her hand for that??)

It was from that vantage point that I found myself freezing Doritos—yes, they of a military-grade shelf-life—in an effort to keep them fresh for as long as it was taking me to eat them. That this would ever be a problem Karen D. Paritee would have to solve had been heretofore, inconceivable.

The journey to that WTF moment felt like something worth talking about—with women who are tired of how it feels and what it costs to build entire systems around not trusting themselves with themselves.

A View from the Other Side

You’re the opposite of being your “problem.” You’ve been trying to move forward without giving up what also matters. That’s not “sabotage.” That’s devotion. Logical. Not “pathological.” And seeing that changes everything.

Why I Built Sorted

I built Sorted for the woman who’s tired of managing herself like a liability. Who’s tired of trying to out-discipline her self-doubt. Who wants to feel safe with herself—and at home in her own mind.

(Ok.ok. I built Sorted because… I mean… have you seen you?? I have. I do. Chef’s kiss. And our community will be even better because of you.)

Sorted doesn’t ask you to give up what you want to get what you also want. That costs too much and never pays off. It shows what’s always been true: you and the person you want to be —are the same person.

It may feel like your actions contradict what you want.

But aligning exactly with who you already are is how you deliver what you want and what you also want—and see that you’re already in the kind of relationship with yourself that checks all your boxes.

Come as you are. So you can leave how you want to be.

(And not even you’ll be able to stop you.)