Your Sorted guide, Karen Paritee

This was maddening.

I spent decades (not a typo), knowing what I wanted, knowing how to get it—and WTF, doing the opposite. (If you know, you know.)

I wished I could just—please—wake up feeling like doing what I kept telling myself was best for me.

With that apparently unavailable for order, I did what all of us who are tired of being tired of ourselves do: the books. The programs. The trackers. The affirmations. All of it.

None of it worked. (As in, for good.)

I thought my problem was willpower. That I didn’t prioritize myself.

But desire and inner conflict aren’t personal problems. They’re human.

Sorted leverages what comes naturally to us to resolve the tension between what we want and what we also want. And that changes everything.

When I respected my very good reasons for everything I did—without exception—what I wanted and what I did aligned—without guilt, deprivation, or self-coercion.

The reality was, I hadn’t been self-sabotaging. I’d been trying to stay whole.

Self-sabotage is self-care with criminally bad PR.

Sorted exists for the woman who has “failed” to change herself (hallelujah!) because that “failure” positions her to move forward without losing what matters to her on both sides.

A refusal to move forward in any negotiation at the expense of what matters to either side is strategy.

And because it is, it frees you from spending any more time under self-surveillance—and from the losing battle of trying to fix what’s not broken.

What do you want—that you don’t want to spend the rest of your life without? That’s where we’ll begin.

Come as you are. So you can leave how you want to be.

For reasons that will become glaringly obvious, it’s the only thing on the menu.