Your Sorted guide, Karen Paritee

This was maddening.

I spent decades knowing what I wanted, knowing how to get it—and WTF, doing the opposite. (If you know, you know.)

I wished I could just wake up feeling like doing what I kept telling myself was best for me.

But you know how that goes. So I did what anyone in that situation would: the books. The programs. The trackers. The affirmations. All of it.

None of it worked. (As in… WORKED.)

I thought my problem was willpower. Or that I didn’t prioritize myself.

It wasn’t.

The harder I tried to make myself change, the more resistance to it I created. My problem wasn’t discipline. It was physics.

Desire and inner conflict aren’t personal problems. They’re human.

Sorted uses what comes naturally to resolve the conflict between what we want and what we also want.

Respecting our very good reasons for every choice we make aligns what we want with what we do—without guilt, deprivation, or self-coercion.

Turns out, I hadn’t been self-sabotaging. I’d been trying to stay whole.

Self-sabotage is self-care with criminally bad PR.

Sorted exists for the woman who has “failed” to change herself (hallelujah!) because that “failure” proves she’s ready to move forward without losing what matters on either side.

A refusal to move forward at the expense of what matters to either side is strategy.

And what honors both frees you from spending any more time under self-surveillance.

What do you want—that you don’t want to spend the rest of your life without?

Come as you are. So you can leave how you want to be.